Sometimes you find yourself loving someone and trying all your best to focus on this person, at the end of the day it doesnt work and you are left broken and sad. It's normal, it happens. But you just have to get over it. Since they have decided to let you go, let them go because more will come. Don't let it give you so much depression and pain. Instead use it as a new opportunity to stand out and be much more better than you have ever being👈👉
Re-focus your energies elsewhere
Before you met this person, you had other things going on. You might not remember if it is a break up from a long term relationship, but you had other things going on. You need to get back yo those things aggressively. Most of the time when we get into something new or while in a relationship we stop investing in what we used to do on our own but focus on what we can do together with this other person. This is why break ups are so very difficult. Re-invest in your hobbies and stop thinking about this person because it will make you want them or miss them more. At some point I used to get distracted like someone when I am attracted to this someone, but I applied the re-focusing technique, I started working on new things, new ideas, new branding schemes, new things and then I noticed that I could really get over things and people. In most case it is necessary because some people don't want you so close to them and you can't resist.
Stop wondering what you could/ can change
If they did not like you then they will not like you later. You cannot short change yourself for an individual. Some of the people we date are not meant for forever but just a lesson in relationships or life. If you are changing, change for you and not them.
Look for that friend you can do crazy things with
They will be crazy but as long as you are enjoying yourself that is the point. Not that friend who wants you to talk about it and be a shoulder. No, that will make you start reminiscing. The angle here is to forget. You forget by laughing and having a good time in totally unrelated situations.
Find something new that could be an interest
It’s just all in efforts to personal growth. Even if you do not follow through eventually, you have learnt something new and it takes your focus. The part where I said, get distracted, yes start off with new ventures. It will not only take your time but it will make you better. If your hobbies or plans are to start sewing, drawing, register in a dance school, start making people up, or job hunt, do it, the fact is that you got back to you feet and you got over it.
Work, work, work
But don’t make it a drag. This is when normally you are never motivated to do anything but evertime you think about this person, you pinch yourself by focusing more on work. Have noticed that sometimes when you not into someone they begin to draw close? They begin to want more of you. Story of life. When work, work and work or some skill or venture is on your table, you get over someone and most times the person begins to want you.
- October 08, 2016
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